my darkest moments....the things I've done that I'm not proud of....the compromises I've made that hurt even today....my darkest truths...
As it happens, when these dark truths surface, we immediately try to shift our mind to some task that will occupy our attention and force the dark truth down.....down into the depths and secret corners of our hearts hoping they will not surface again. The sad but true thing is that they do surface and if we don't deal with them, they will come up at a time when we will be well and truly trapped....Unpleasant and horrible as these are, we have to force ourselves to look at them and look at ourselves and deal with them when they come up. There is no weakness here in admitting we are struggling with our dark truths....for it is only great mental strength that will help us face and deal with these dark truths about ourselves.....it is a truly heroic effort, for the struggle to let it come out and then deal with it, is great.
Life is hard but it is also beautiful. And we have to be able to honor both these realities.
We will never be at complete peace, we will not be able to feel at home in our own skin...in our heart and mind and body unless we realize that we are also made up of dark truths-that-were-but-are-not-there-anymore. We cannot be real people if there are only roses....there have to be thorns too....but thorns we have dealt with and made peace with.
We have to become real.
Look at what Oprah Winfrey says - and she knows what she is saying having walked a painful road herself...
Seek to be whole, not perfect.
You are not here to shrink down to less, but to blossom into more of who you really are.
You alone must fill yourself with love in all your empty shattered spaces.