by negativeness.
Really, negativeness has so much strength - a word spoken callously, a hurtful action, an unthinking way of behaving....generate a great deal of negativeness. While we tend to be very conscious of being at the receiving end of negativeness, we need to pause and ask how much negativeness we create or are responsible for.
Having said this, what we need to do is to use our energies into nurturing and supporting positiveness. It's not easy to be on a positive mode all the time - even the strongest intention of doing so gets weakened when negativeness hits us...and so we need to have a space to go to where we can sit quietly and get our equilibrium back. This is for us - for nurturing positiveness inside of us and so removing all the negative energies that are clamoring to get a place inside of us.
Sometimes we cannot do this alone. So, it is very, very important to have a support structure in place. We need to have people around us who will lift us up - not drag us down either by condemning us or giving us lectures about alternate ways of being able to stay on an even keel......not blaming us but by lifting our spirits by their presence......not pointing out our limitations and shortcomings, but by being supportive of what we are all about in spite of some one thing having not gone the way it should.
Most of all, we need to have those people around us who will give us also an opportunity to be there for them in return. We need to create a nurturing and supportive structure for our family and friends for when negativeness strikes at them. Reaching out to others will also reduce the power of the negative within us - from us outwards to others and from others inwards to us.
Of all the influences that hammer on our souls, we need to choose and nurture only the positive ones...