“Instead of asking yourself why this is happening to you, ask why this is happening for you.”
Things keep happening to us. In my meditation this morning I read about how we can allow things that happen to us to become either chariots on which we can ride over them or become juggernauts that crush us....If we allow them to become chariots, we will be able to see the hidden lesson...and if we take heed of this lesson, it will go on to becoming enriching.
The thing is that when we are being assailed by something or the other all the time, our physical tiredness may make us cave in to the tiredness of our mind and body, or we may be in a vulnerable place and allow the hurt to add to all the other remembered hurts and feel a terrible sense of loneliness....all inner strength depleted, all sense of self-worth and self-esteem vanished....
What we, therefore, need to do is to exercise putting things on hold. No matter what, or how urgent, or how demanding, when we feel we are physically tired, or mentally not strong enough, or when we feel that we just don't want to deal with this right at this moment, we just HAVE to put the matter on hold. This way we would be according respect to our minds and bodies - something we often don't do, or we don't care about or we force to stretch to their outermost limit - and we would be giving ourselves the time and space to look at things with a steadier and calmer heart and mind.
Since this is an exercise, we can handle it. Just say no to immediate action/decision....Remember, good and bad, both are happening for us - in our best interests - so we need to learn to pause, deliberately so....