in favor of examining the situations we find ourselves in.
It could be that we are in a difficult situation and feel there is no way out, or it could be an incomprehensible problem that has suddenly cropped up. It could be a health issue that sounds ominous, or it could be a dilemma we unwittingly find ourselves in. It could be a bolt out of the blue that almost paralyzes our mind...
Some of us can stay calm, but some cannot, and some of us totally panic when anything out of the ordinary or out of our ken happens.
The realization that has come to me is that when we find ourselves in such a situation, we have to force ourselves to examine the issue that has caused this upheaval, no matter even if it is a small one, in our lives and no matter how hurtful it may be to us. It is easy to jump to conclusions based on our past experiences, or decide that well this is the way it is and this is the way I am, or this has happened so this is the response.....fact is that we really cannot refer to our past experiences for we were different people then - in fact we are different people with every breath we take. We have to see the problem from all angles, through the eyes of all parties involved - most definitely including ourselves. A solution is bound to come up - the question is whether we are willing to be part of that solution, or are we going to hang on to our hurt...
Just as problems are difficult to handle, solutions are difficult to live...