If we are bitter about whatever it is we have to go through or live with, there is no way for us to connect to the Light - i.e. find relief, strength, and serenity - life will remain painful and frightening.
On the other hand, if we see it for the truth of what it really is (accept it by getting out of denial) - we will get closer to the Light - i.e. we will release the power within.
And, we'll be able to start accessing the lessons that our circumstance has to teach us.
Paraphrased from my meditation: Weekly Kabbalah Tune Up: SLOW DANCE