to thoughts on sharing our fears....
I do believe that one can only share one's fears with those in whom there is total and absolute trust....
Experience has shown me time and again, that a mistake here can be very costly emotionally, and psychologically, not to mention the adverse impact it can have on your life...
So why do we need to share our fears at all - simply because it sometimes becomes too much for the lone heart to bear...
Looking at this from the other side - trusting another person with this deepest of deep feelings, in a way empowers the person you trust - empowers him/her to know how valued he/she is, and what a source of comfort...gives the person more confidence in himself/herself too - that he/she was worthy of trust.
What the person you trust does with that piece of your heart depends on that person entirely....the trust can deepen or be betrayed.....
Another way of looking at sharing our fears is to tell the person you trust that thanks to you, I came out of it..and I'm here for when you need someone to lean on...
And still another way of looking at this is to show that with help any fear can be overcome
At the end of the day we have to find our own solutions....having a trusting hand to hold, helps....