that I'm learning over and over again....a lesson that is proving right every single time too!
In order to make life a little easier, I have a network of support staff - my DD had insisted I do this, and though it was a little difficult to put together, I've managed to get my network in place. This includes a gardener, a plumber, an electrician, and even a building contractor who has the manpower to help out with the inevitable demands of a home, since something or the other is bound to go wrong now and again...
However, as it is happens, sometimes, things don't work out as they should.
Result: frustration leading to irritation leading to, in some cases, breaking off with that particular person and getting someone else in his place, or getting into an argument with a totally unsatisfactory and unhappy exchange of charges...
I've discovered, again, much to my frustration, that replacing someone does not usually work. For one thing, I have to make a whole lot of explanations, and then, invariably, I find that the replacement is worse than the person he has replaced. So, dead end....and the whole unhappy cycle again.
An argument does not work out, because the support staff will always have the upper hand seeing as I'm the one who needs them! Plus, an argument or an angry exchange of charges does not leave a loophole to escape from or retract into or come to an understanding of sorts, so that we can go on.
And so I've learned that when something goes wrong, the best is to fix it myself if I can, or if I can't, first give myself a period of letting of steam, then approach the same person to fix or rectify the problem.
This is not only for people. Have you seen that when you try to solve an issue, often the solution makes the problem worse....? Tried to clean a tiny stain? Chances are that after your efforts, it looks worse! This has happened times without number to me...
No matter what, the thing to remember is that nor people nor things are perfect...we aren't, either....and so we need to create a space around those we deal with and also around ourselves. A space for maneuvering...