when Person A tells Person B what they have done, or what they want to do, or what they do, Person B will give his two- three- six-penny bit and say - why don't you do it this way or why don't you this, or, this is cheaper, or this is better, or this is the what I did and it came out tops, or oh! you have a lot of money is it?, or well, this is how I would have done this, but it's your call...and so on and so forth......
......very difficult to accept and acknowledge what Person A tries to do or does. Very difficult even to just listen without adding or subtracting something.
WHY?
Why can we not just accept what someone is telling us....why do we always have to say something. Why can we just not listen quietly....why do we feel we have to contribute our mite - be it our experience or the experience of someone we know, or even something we have read...WHY? Why can we not give our full attention to what the person is telling us or trying to tell us. Why do we feel we have to give our advice or share our wisdom? If we feel there is a genuine issue, then we can find a way to gently ease our experience/insight/wisdom into the conversation without making that person feel small or ignorant or foolish. But that is a big IF.....doesn't have to be done. It is absolutely okay not to always contribute to a conversation unless you feel it is adding to it, or improving the general atmosphere. People like to find out for themselves that they may be wrong or there is a better way to doing something. The key phrase is: find out for themselves. Most of the time, people just like to know that there is someone they can share with....that's all - they are more than ready to do the rest themselves, or find out whatever it is for themselves.
Always trying to correct a person or give your suggestion as being better is very likely to leave that person feeling alone or sad or different...
Believe me. I've been at the receiving end and so now am very careful that I do not, even inadvertently, try to give my two-penny bit/wisdom/advice. It's working and that's why I'm sharing this - it's making me feel better and not a Miss know-all!!! and better still, it's keeping the atmosphere peaceful....
Try it....
I think, above all, it is important to protect another person's feeling of self-worth and self-esteem...