I've made out for myself:
1. Treasure and preserve your own personal space, no matter what... Likewise, never encroach on anyone else's personal space.
2. Never give any helpful tips or offer solutions when someone comes to you in tears, with a problem or because he/she feels they are in serious trouble UNLESS asked to...Often the person just wants a shoulder to lean on.
3. Do not take anyone seriously unless they have proved to be a real friend. By extension, do not take yourself so seriously that you allow yourself to be hurt by someone's random words or actions.
4. Help when you can. Otherwise stay by yourself. You don't need to prove anything to anyone.
5. Give of yourself only if you are certain you will be appreciated and cherished.
6. It's better to be alone than with people who sap your energy, don't take you seriously, are not interested in getting to know you, and in whose company you have to be someone else in order to be accepted. Resist, with all your might, anyone who tries or may try to control you.....even in the tiniest way.
7. Always be you - become a better and better you....and never bargain yourself away.
8. Work towards coming to terms with yourself and making peace with yourself.
9. The only thing that matters is your inner energy...direct it, at all times, to work for you - to keep you calm and on an even keel....to remind you of who you are (not in judgment, but in love)....to keep you centered.
10. You are responsible only for your children and for your own self. Towards everyone else, act responsibly.
Finally, here are 2 mantras for life -
1. To each his own...for we do not know another's exigencies or pressures
and
2. There, but for the grace of God, go I....don't be judgmental, for that person could have been you