seeking approbation for the thoughts we share, and our actions...
trying to justify ourselves to those whom we look on as friends...
working on doing what we feel will bring approval or praise or sanction from those around us...maybe make us feel accepted and not as if we were some freak...maybe make us 'part of the group'...
getting people to be on our side...
We want to look good, in other words, regardless, very often, of our own reality (by reality I mean what we deep down want to do for ourselves, what we know as being right for us, what we really believe in, in the depths of our own hearts, what we know as being good for us...)
Thing is, no one really cares, because when push comes to shove, we find we are alone......all alone.....
The ones who do care will love us and support us unconditionally...
So, we just need to do what is right by our lights and leave it at that....