unconsciously, subconsciously, consciously always looking for perfection and trying to live up to some 'perfect ideal' that we have conjured up out of our mind, with the belief that happiness lies in perfection?
DO NOT
Striving for perfection at all times and in all places, and for ourselves and others, will only end in grief....for none of us can be perfect. If we say, 'Well, at least we can try,' we are still, then, turning the screws both on ourselves and on others and on everything around us.
The Kabbalah says, 'looking for the perfect thing (according to our idea of perfection) often keeps us from the many imperfect things that would make us perfectly happy.'