Finally, it came to my head that when we talk of wholeness of mind and spirit and heart and soul, what is meant is that we have to reconcile all our stages of mental-emotional-psychological growth. We carry our emotions (and all the attending factors) from one stage of our life to the next and the next and the next till we are a bundle of emotions, and all pulling and tugging in all different directions - making us feel and respond in a myriad ways. It is only when we harmonize our childhood with our young adulthood, with our older adulthood, with what we are today, that we become complete and whole as persons.... . This is NOT rationalizing - this is acknowledging - understanding - and accepting each stage and allowing them to peacefully segue into each other. We are not responsible for our environment when we were growing up, so we cannot either blame or praise it - but we can make sure that the good and bad times, the fortunate and unfortunate circumstances, what we had and what we didn't have, all find their rightful place in what we are today...the pattern will bring with it peace and serenity...
And so, just as it is extremely important that our mind/heart/soul and body move in sync, it is more-more-more than important to have all the parts of the mind/heart/soul peacefully coexist inside of us...