We need to work on internalizing this.
1. On needing validation. We have to stop seeking validation. For this we need to examine ourselves and see if we have become so dependent on what others think about us, that all our words and actions are geared to this end.... We choose our thoughts and actions not in response to what we truthfully feel about the issues we passionately feel about or about the circumstances and situations we find ourselves in, but for how this one, that one or the other one is going to view what we say or do and by extension view us. We are desperately seeking to be complimented, loved and for this are willing to tailor-make every word and action of ours. It is a good feeling when we are complimented, no doubt - what we need to examine is if our words and actions ring with truth or with this need to be complimented and thus perceive ourselves to be great. We allow ourselves to feel valued or devalued according to the perception of others.
2. On approving ourselves. How people respond to what we say or do does not determine our worth. They perceive something and act according to their lights....but that perception may be totally off the mark. So do we then trash ourselves, or raise ourselves up? We have to love ourselves enough not to be swayed by someone's perceptions of us....if we are wrong, life will put us on the right track and if we are right, we will enjoy the happiness that is due to us.
3. On giving our inner power away. If we change and mould our lives according to how we want to be seen by others, in other words by how people perceive us, remember that perceptions - either our perceptions of others or others perceptions of us merely drains our inner power. We have to spend time with ourselves to know what we are all about...