True care isn’t always about lecturing or giving advice. True care is giving people the space to go through their own process, and realize when it is time to change.
I came across this in my Kabbalah meditation. I would add one more line to this:
And to just be around to hold their hand or hug them whenever they need it....
It is not easy to change. Change happens when someone who loves you believes in you enough to help you through the process you believe you need to go through--you know you have to go through----unobtrusively but ever present, and who will love you enough to fill your heart in those moments when you don't love yourself...