I read this in Diffenbaugh's 'The Language of Flowers' - When Victoria, who is a mis-and a dis-everything because of her life experiences except for her love for and talent with flowers, was struggling to find out which flowers she could use in a bouquet for a customer who was looking for 'desire' in her relationship with her husband, for a moment thinks - 'I could give Annemarie a bouquet of something bold and bright and lie about its meaning....,' she brings herself up short and realizing that she just could not do something like this. Her thoughts were ' I had been loyal to nothing except the language of flowers. If I started lying about it, there would be nothing left in my life that was beautiful or true.' And with that thought, she went to another flower expert, who she trusted, for help, and gave Annemarie the right kind of flowers.
We do so many things - but in all that there has to be something - one thing - which we love, which we are good at and which we enjoy doing.....we have to remain loyal to that no matter what the obstacles that come in our way.
Loyalty is also to ourselves - our values and beliefs - the core of who we are - so in a relationship, we have to see that while compromises and adjustments may have to be made, we must never hide, or try to change or re-model that deep core - because that is who we are. .........I cannot be a carbon copy of you, or your clone, but I can be a good friend and companion. This is also a hugely difficult thing because all the time we come across people who desperately try to make us who they would wish us to be.......This is also where dear honest friends come in, who love us for what we are, and who nudge us reminding us of who we are, bringing us back on our own rails...