An exercise to be consciously done this year -
Check to see if I am living in the moment....
Of course if the moment is one in which I am working or doing something, the check is easy. The consciousness needs to be there in:
Happy moments - when I need to recognize it, participate in it fully, file it away, and.................remember that it is fleeting,
Angry moments - when I need to get what really happened, and if needs be, even express it, instead of trying to look for reasons, rationalize, blame, suppress, and.................. remember that it is fleeting... . (There is a rider here - it's best when angry to be alone, and try not to say anything - if it would help, its even best to go off for a walk or to the gym - because what is said or done in a moment of anger may be worse than what happened to make you angry in the first place. Remember sticks and stones may hurt my bones, but angry words will hurt the soul).
Hurting moments - when I need to face up to it (not wish it away, try to push it under the carpet, or rationalize it, or stifle/compress it), suffer it, cry, maybe, and.................... remember that it is fleeting...