10 August 2015
Fascinated by these words...
The only thing intelligent about a good art is if it shakes you alive, otherwise it’s hokum.
04 August 2015
In all this porn-no-porn hullabaloo...
strangely, no one's talking about how easy access to porn is affecting
kids and adolescents...It is a school teacher's worst nightmare come
true when she sees a child in her class (going down in some cases to
class 4 or 5 even) intent on watching porn on the cellphone - in most
cases even without understanding what is happening. I don't even want to
talk about how it affects teens and young adults. What happens to these
children's minds? Or am I just fretting? Where parents are involved in
the lives of their children, it's fine, they'll know how to deal with
it, but what about the children who grow up with hardly any
adult/parental influence? I'm not saying that banning has ever solved
any problem, but to my mind, what it does is that it highlights an issue
that needs to be looked at and dealt with.
I simply cannot accept...
the hanging of Yakub Memon. I know with my head that the cards were all
stacked against him. I have tried to see it from the points of view and
arguments of various people - eminent and the not-so-eminent - as
reported in the papers and heard on TV. The picture that emerges is at
best a shady mosaic. So how can we say that something that does not have
clear contours is a hundred percent correct? I believe with all of my
being that for closure to happen there
has to be compassion in the heart. I'm not saying exonerate the person
who has caused this grievous hurt - am wondering if a punishment like
hanging, which is such a violent act, can really heal a heart that has
been wounded by an act of senseless violence? Added to this are the
cries of those who have not received the same 'closure' on account of
the numerous other violent hate-filled incidents. How can we say one
kind of mass-killing is worse than another? How can we say that the
reasons behind one kind of mass-killing are more justifiable than the
reasons behind other mass killings? Is the grief of one set of people
whose loved ones have been lost in mass killing greater than the grief of
another set of people who have also lost their loved ones in a similar
manner? If many people were involved in a mass killing, and only one was
caught, then will hanging only this one person be enough for this
closure?
20 July 2015
07 July 2015
Just do a self-check...
on your friends.
We often keep a friendship going with someone who has been insensitive to us, hurt us, bossed over us, made us take decisions we know deep down weren't right for us and didn't resonate with our hearts....and at various other times have made us be and do what we know - we just know - doesn't feel right, for us...
In other words, it is as if we are trying to be someone else in the presence of this 'friend' simply because we desperately want this friendship, or don't want to be seen as a difficult person, or don't want to be alone...
How many times we make compromises on what we know or believe because we want a particular friendship....or we've wanted to hang on to that very popular person, thinking some of the gold dust would get sprinkled on us too...
We've traded in ourselves because we're too scared to be alone.....so we're ready to do anything - anything - to show that 'I too have friends', or 'I'm in this person's group.'
If we stop right here and think, we'll come to realize that anyone who makes us BE different isn't our well-wisher....does not have our interests at heart....is doling out bits of friendship only for their own ego massage, or to justify something for themselves, or they hiding behind us, making us a front for what they want to do, and so they have a ready-made scapegoat.
We don't - DO NOT - need these friends. Better to be alone, rather than get into a situation where we will be spending time and energy trying to put the bits and pieces of ourselves together...or scraping ourselves off the floor on which we've been wiped...
It's difficult to be alone, but it is definitely better to be alone than to be a nobody in somebody else's scheme of things...
We often keep a friendship going with someone who has been insensitive to us, hurt us, bossed over us, made us take decisions we know deep down weren't right for us and didn't resonate with our hearts....and at various other times have made us be and do what we know - we just know - doesn't feel right, for us...
In other words, it is as if we are trying to be someone else in the presence of this 'friend' simply because we desperately want this friendship, or don't want to be seen as a difficult person, or don't want to be alone...
How many times we make compromises on what we know or believe because we want a particular friendship....or we've wanted to hang on to that very popular person, thinking some of the gold dust would get sprinkled on us too...
We've traded in ourselves because we're too scared to be alone.....so we're ready to do anything - anything - to show that 'I too have friends', or 'I'm in this person's group.'
If we stop right here and think, we'll come to realize that anyone who makes us BE different isn't our well-wisher....does not have our interests at heart....is doling out bits of friendship only for their own ego massage, or to justify something for themselves, or they hiding behind us, making us a front for what they want to do, and so they have a ready-made scapegoat.
We don't - DO NOT - need these friends. Better to be alone, rather than get into a situation where we will be spending time and energy trying to put the bits and pieces of ourselves together...or scraping ourselves off the floor on which we've been wiped...
It's difficult to be alone, but it is definitely better to be alone than to be a nobody in somebody else's scheme of things...
04 July 2015
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