on your friends.
We often keep a friendship going with someone who has been insensitive to us, hurt us, bossed over us, made us take decisions we know deep down weren't right for us and didn't resonate with our hearts....and at various other times have made us be and do what we know - we just know - doesn't feel right, for us...
In other words, it is as if we are trying to be someone else in the presence of this 'friend' simply because we desperately want this friendship, or don't want to be seen as a difficult person, or don't want to be alone...
How many times we make compromises on what we know or believe because we want a particular friendship....or we've wanted to hang on to that very popular person, thinking some of the gold dust would get sprinkled on us too...
We've traded in ourselves because we're too scared to be alone.....so we're ready to do anything - anything - to show that 'I too have friends', or 'I'm in this person's group.'
If we stop right here and think, we'll come to realize that anyone who makes us BE different isn't our well-wisher....does not have our interests at heart....is doling out bits of friendship only for their own ego massage, or to justify something for themselves, or they hiding behind us, making us a front for what they want to do, and so they have a ready-made scapegoat.
We don't - DO NOT - need these friends. Better to be alone, rather than get into a situation where we will be spending time and energy trying to put the bits and pieces of ourselves together...or scraping ourselves off the floor on which we've been wiped...
It's difficult to be alone, but it is definitely better to be alone than to be a nobody in somebody else's scheme of things...