This is a word that can cause a lot of heartache, terrible loneliness and an awful feeling of having left important things undone or unsaid.
How so?
Just think about it....take a cup of coffee to your personal space, put everything away, and think about this word.
How many times do we use this word? What are the various contexts and situations in which we have used this word? Why have we used this word? and then....How do we feel when someone uses this word in a conversation with us?
Why I want to write about this word is because something happened the other day - for a long time, a very good friend had not been in contact - oh, contact as in sending forwards on the mail or What'sapp was happening regularly but there was no real heart-contact. I have been going through a not-very-easy time, and a chat with a good friend would have eased my mind. However, the friend msgd saying that for some reason I had been on her mind but she hadn't been able to call since she had been very busy. How glibly she used the word to explain away a long silence....so then would it really matter to this person what I had been going through, or how I had been suffering?
It was then that I realized that using the word busy may cover up a lot for the person using the word, but it can cause hurt in the person hearing it, for the only thing that comes through is that you were not important enough for even a one-minute call....
What are you doing that is so important that you cannot spare a moment for a person you call friend....
Do you have so much work that you cannot take out a brief bit of time to connect with someone whom you have not heard from for a long time...
Are you so occupied that you have no time to reassure a person reaching out to you silently over the miles, of your love and friendship...
Is there so much happening in your life that you cannot share the comfort of your voice to someone who you know is in a rough place...
Never, ever, ever use the word busy.......for you can never ever really, in all honesty and truthfulness be thaaaaat busy....