long enough (or meditate long enough) and hard enough about a crisis situation that you may find yourself in, you'll see that messages about what to do, how to go about it, how to think and many other related and viable ways of thinking come across your path. It almost seems as if the Universe is gathering the material that you need just at this point and is sending them to you. You have to give your situation your full attention - only then will you see the pattern in what the Universe is sending you. Only then will you be able to see that your life has been leading you to this point and whether it works or not, you will also be given the strength to bear and overcome.
Believe me - it is true for I am walking this path.
The only thing is that since this is your life, you must battle/reason/work with it by yourself. Not even the most well-meaning person can fully grasp or understand your pain or your questions/doubts/apprehensions. No one can take away the pain - you have to deal with it, and absorb it by and into yourself. Another thing is that if you ask too many people - as it sometimes happens, when the pain is too much and you run from here to there wondering what to do - chances are that there will be too many opinions offered, most of them conflicting ones. You cannot shift the responsibility for the taking of your decision on anyone - not even the one you love the most with your whole life - simply because it is your life and you have to live it...no one else can live it for you...
Jesus walked this lonesome valley - He had to walk it by Himself - Oh nobody else could walk it for Him - He had to walk it by Himself....
Likewise each one of us.