When someone from the past suddenly pops up into your horizon, it opens up such a big box of memories...and you realize that even if that person was not connected directly with those memories, the indirect bonds link up to make a picture. How does one deal with this? you are instantly transported to that time gone by--you become that little girl all over again, and with this come the childlike feelings and thoughts--and then you realize that 30, 40 years have gone by and that little girl has become an old lady-there are other bonds - strong bonds that define her life--how do the older links mesh in? how do the old bonds relate with the newer ones? But life changes all of us...and life teaches us to be wary and careful, and that the old not being able to cope with the new might hurt badly...friends at every stage of life have claims, one has to see if those claims harmonize with the now and here.....because it is the here and now that define your life....